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With the childhood abuse thing, how did you overcome it? Because it seems impossible.
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stripperina:

For me, there is no “overcoming” childhood trauma in the sense that it no longer effects me in any way.  It will always have some level of effect on me. 

At one point I was exploring the concept of grief (a friend/mentor had died unexpectedly) and came to the realization that grief is not something you move through and past, but something that moves through you.  I had always imagined it as a forest that you entered, walk through for a while, and eventually exited.  But that was inaccurate.  It is more like the wind.  Sometimes it is still and you cannot feel it at all, and other times it is so strong you can barely stand, but it is the one that is moving and changing while you stand still.  It is never gone completely, but it’s also never going to always be there in a debilitating way.  It moves through us in a perceptible way until it doesn’t.

So the goal is not to “overcome” it.  In my experience, these are the four steps that will help you heal and thrive after surviving abuse and/or trauma:

  1. Accept that it happened.
  2. Eliminate self-blame.
  3. Show empathy toward all your feelings.
  4. Remember you are valuable.

To be more specific, 1. Accept that what happened DID in fact happen. Blocking it out or bottling it up won’t make it go away, it only prolongs the healing process.  2. Recognize that you are not to blame.  Nothing that happened to you was a result of your own actions and nothing about who you are as a person means you deserved it.  3. Show yourself empathy for any lingering feelings about what happened.  All your feelings that are a result of your trauma are valid, whether that’s anger or fear or sadness or relief or a lack of feeling anything at all.  and 4. Remember that it doesn’t effect your value or self worth as a person.  You are NOT dirty or damaged or less deserving of respect because of what happened to you.  You are still strong and loveable and deserving of respect and kindness. 

Working on those four steps will the easier it is to move through life without dragging the weight or your abuse behind you wherever you go.  You may not be able to “overcome” past trauma, but you CAN survive it and live a happy, fruitful life despite it.


tripnskip:

"Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you I had no control over."

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davidconrads:

Favorite Movies: A Little Princess (1995)
"I am a princess. All girls are. Even if they live in tiny, old attics. Even if they dress in rags. Even if they aren’t pretty, or smart, or young. They’re still princess, all of us. Didn’t your father ever tell you that?”

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She's so far away. She's so far and it hurts so bad and I'm afraid. I don't know what to do with myself. The world is pale and washed out, like it's been through the washing machine too many times. Each day is exquisitely slow and grating. Every second I'm without her the world crawls by while I lay here, curled up and anxious and stagnant and alone. This is so hard.
Anonymous
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I’m sorry you feel this way. I’m here if you need to talk.


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Someone buy me a plane ticket.


likki-nenard:

Reminds me of you

likki-nenard:

Reminds me of you

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"Image Credit: Carol Rossetti

When Brazilian graphic designer Carol Rossetti began posting colorful illustrations of women and their stories to Facebook, she had no idea how popular they would become. 

Thousands of shares throughout the world later, the appeal of Rosetti’s work is clear. Much like the street art phenomenon Stop Telling Women To Smile, Rossetti’s empowering images are the kind you want to post on every street corner, as both a reminder and affirmation of women’s bodily autonomy. 

"It has always bothered me, the world’s attempts to control women’s bodies, behavior and identities," Rossetti told Mic via email. "It’s a kind of oppression so deeply entangled in our culture that most people don’t even see it’s there, and how cruel it can be."

Rossetti’s illustrations touch upon an impressive range of intersectional topics, including LGBTQ identity, body image, ageism, racism, sexism and ableism. Some characters are based on the experiences of friends or her own life, while others draw inspiration from the stories many women have shared across the Internet. 

"I see those situations I portray every day," she wrote. "I lived some of them myself."

Despite quickly garnering thousands of enthusiastic comments and shares on Facebook, the project started as something personal — so personal, in fact, that Rossetti is still figuring out what to call it. For now, the images reside in albums simply titled “WOMEN in english!" or "Mujeres en español!" which is fitting: Rossetti’s illustrations encompass a vast set of experiences that together create a powerful picture of both women’s identity and oppression.

One of the most interesting aspects of the project is the way it has struck such a global chord. Rossetti originally wrote the text of the illustrations in Portuguese, and then worked with an Australian woman to translate them to English. A group of Israeli feminists also took it upon themselves to create versions of the illustrations in Hebrew. Now, more people have reached out to Rossetti through Facebook and offered to translate her work into even more languages. Next on the docket? Spanish, Russian, German and Lithuanian.

It’s an inspiring show of global solidarity, but the message of Rossetti’s art is clear in any language. Above all, her images celebrate being true to oneself, respecting others and questioning what society tells us is acceptable or beautiful.

"I can’t change the world by myself," Rossetti said. "But I’d love to know that my work made people review their privileges and be more open to understanding and respecting one another."

From the site: All images courtesy Carol Rossetti and used with permission. You can find more illustrations, as well as more languages, on her Facebook page.

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This is the most accurate thing I’ve ever seen in my ENTIRE LIFE

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  • facebook
  • skype
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My pledge to you:

I will kill the spiders. I will share my fries with you when you’ve finished all yours and are still hungry. I won’t ever pop my collar. I will never be rude to your tummy- when i hear it growl and gurgle. I promise to bend down and reply respectfully. I will eat the mushrooms when we order the supreme pizza. I will kiss the paper cuts. And the door-slammed finger, and the counter-bumped hip. I’ll try my hardest not to get annoyed when you whisper questions and comments during movies. I will be the big spoon. I will let you win at wrestling, sometimes. Other times i will not. I will go faster. Harder. I will pull when you want. And tease you when you don’t. I will send you random texts and leave you silly gifts. Not always. Not on schedule. Just whenever i want to. Whenever i think you need one. Or seven. I will check your tire pressure. And remind you to take your car in. I will hold your hand. I will love you. I will love you. I will love you.”

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Why can’t I have this?

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All ready for the day. Even have my fake smile.

All ready for the day. Even have my fake smile.


I’m a princess 👸

I’m a princess 👸


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